Time on Earth: November 2007

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Never make someone a priority if they don't even consider you an option

In continuation to my previous blog on how disappointed I was with some people's reactions. True to my guess, she indeed went for not one, not two but as many as three or four movies with the friend she got to know through me. I got a confirmation to my instints from the horses mouth. Below is the part of the conversation. Names have been taken off to protect the identity but I assure you I did not change the contents of the conversation.

Me: she asked u out for movie or u ask her out hee~
X: she ask lar..
X: i also dun mind goin for movie with her mah..

She asked him out and it didn't cross her mind that how about asking me along? Since we all know each other, it's not difficult to say "Can I ask xx along?" Perhaps she wants him all to herself since she initiated the date.

Me: for game plan n enchanted also she jio ar?
X: wah game plan, oh yar hor.. i watched it with her..haha
X: yeah..

One movie perhaps by chance he's free but so many other movies? Isn't this an obvious sign she's interested in him?

X: haiyah, sometimes we watch show by chance wan,,never really plan..
Me: bee movie too?
X: meet up for dinner then end up watching movie..hahah
X: how come u know we watched all these shows?

Not only movies but also date him for dinners too? It's not about whether plan for movies or dinners, its who making the first move.

Me: at least she iniciates the dinners n movies ;)
X: hmm, well, like the most recent wan, she did say she was free.. so i asked whether she wanted to join them for karaoke..
X: she didn't want to and suggested movie instead..
X: so.. ain't exactly considered as she initiates movies.. =p
Me: she tells u she's free means she wants to ask u out lah.. /faint ...or rather she wants to date u lah hee~

So she so keen to tell him she's free and attend his dates and gave alternative when the program he is attending does not suit her.

X: u can ask her out also mah..
Me: she's always bz...thats the response I get :) see the diff ;P
X: issit?
Me: stop asking after awhile..
X: well, try to catch her at days when u know shes definitely free lar..
Me: more than a year is enough liao..
X: wow..
Me: I got no idea when's her free days....to me she's always busy.. or perhaps busy to me ;P
X: hmm, but she's the sort that would make time wan lei..
X: or tats wat i feel..
Me: to u only my friend hee~
X: haha, hmm, u haven't tried asking her out recently have u?
Me: not interested.

See, she makes time for him. He just don't get the fact that I always got the "Sorry busy" rather than the "Yes, I'm free" that he got, isn't he?

Was I jealous? Maybe.
Was I upset? Maybe.
Was I disappointed? Likely.
Was I pissed? YES.

Why was I pissed? Simple, if you really feel pai seh about getting treats from me, won't you try to return the favour? Besides, I am not looking for free movies or dinner, it's the thought that counts. I am most willing to pay for everything WITHOUT any forms of returns. I know for the longest time possible that I am not in her priority list but I never know the fact that I wasn't even on her ANY list. From the above incident, it clearly shows that she rather sits at home and bored to death or date other guys than checking if I am available. Ignorance is sometimes a bliss compare to the harsh reality. At least I know now.

A mutual friend who knows about my liking for her suggests that perhaps she's putting me down the order list for fear that she might mislead me into thinking that she likes me. OH PLEASE! Do I look like someone who will start stalking and bugging people over a dinner or movie? As I mentioned, for the longest time, I already know she's not interested in me. What pissed me off was her pretentious attitude towards me. Don't come telling me you feel bad making me treat when you actually don't feel so. I hate hypocrites, I prefer you come clean with me, I can take punches but not stabs from behind.

"Never make someone a priority if they don't even consider you an option." I have learn the true meaning of this phrase the painful way. For putting her on my priority list, I have indirectly hurt others whom deserve more attention from me than her.

P.S. If you want to shit, please shit far away. Don't shit in my garden, I will sure to smell it.

Monday, November 26, 2007

I just don't get it.

I don't mind paying for movies and dinner for gals especially if she's someone I fancy but I don't have a money printing machine at home to print money so I can't possible pay every single time. However if the other party is not working or broke or some valid reasons then I don't mind paying since if we don't meet so often.

Story time:
Paid movie and food for someone and she felt bad about it so I said, next round on you. I don't keep a little black book on how many times I treat or how much I paid for as I really don't expect a payback even though I said "next round on you".

Well, I realised that some people just don't meant what they said. Though not expecting a pay back but at least an attempt to ask me out shows that you want to pay back and I might even pay for this time round again without wanting a pay back as usual. Perhaps I was hoping too much but how can you tell me you are busy yet the movies you have watched are more recent than the ones I have seen?

This not only shows that I am not on your priority list but I am not even in the consideration list. She rather ask anyone else out then to ask me out in an attempt to pay back my treat. She can say its the other party dated her. Fine. If you are so free to go for that date, why not attempt to ask me out is my point.

If you are doing that to me, what makes you think that I will want to company you for a movie I have watched? or get you stuffs you wanted? You have clearly showed me how insignificant I am so do expect me to return the favour.

In many cases ignorance is seen as a pleasant alternative to harsh reality. I rather not know she has watch many other movies with friends she got to know through me. This is like a double punch.

Bottom line, some people are just not worthy of my time and effort and do expect you to be off my list very soon.

Thursday, November 22, 2007

My Multiply being vandalized by a asshole 4

For some unknown reason, a user of Multiply name asshole 4 posted some weird replies to my blogs.

First was the reply to my blog about choices (its about having the option to choose) and her reply is "Indecision is the most selfish decision. think twice with your brains before doing anything..and if you dun haf any, use your kneecaps." - this tells me that this fellow is a local Chinese and not someone from USA as she claims to be because there a show or something that goes "用膝盖想都知道。" saying being used.

Then she move on to reply on my ABCDEFG blog (its a tee-shirt with this print on it 'A Boy Can Do Everything For Girl') with "YOU DUN EVEN DO ABCDEFG IN THE FIRST PLACE" - this tells me that her reply is targeted at me and very angry since its all in caps.

Last one is the worse. She even deleted her initial post. "oh yess...we should REALLY stop caring for assholes...and LOOK WHO'S TALKING!!!! i nv knew assholes could blog too." - this shows that I am her target and she's calling me an asshole.

Best part, she even invites me to add her as a life partner. - this somehow tells me that she is angry with me over some relationship issues but I didn't reject someones marriage proposal leh.

Obviously someone created an account just to vent her anger on me. It is also obvious that this person is somehow linked to someone I know since she dare not use her real identity and claims to be from USA. So what if I am a flirt? So what if I am an asshole. I don't expect to everyone to like me just as I don't expect me to like everyone. It's interesting to get such replies, triggers my Sherlock Homes mood to find out who.

Seriously, I am a flirt I agreed but I don't mean any harm to anyone. I know sometimes I might mislead girls but that's me. I am always nice to the fairer gender. What's wrong for being nicer to them? If the person got hurt because I don't reciprocate her feelings, what can I do? I am NOT ready to settle down and I am definitely NOT looking forward to it.

Anyway, I just changed the security settings of the blogs to private and limits to my contacts only so that if some ass hole 5 where to post again, I can trace back to who this ass hole is linked to.

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