Never make someone a priority if they don't even consider you an option
In continuation to my previous blog on how disappointed I was with some people's reactions. True to my guess, she indeed went for not one, not two but as many as three or four movies with the friend she got to know through me. I got a confirmation to my instints from the horses mouth. Below is the part of the conversation. Names have been taken off to protect the identity but I assure you I did not change the contents of the conversation.Me: she asked u out for movie or u ask her out hee~
X: she ask lar..
X: i also dun mind goin for movie with her mah..
She asked him out and it didn't cross her mind that how about asking me along? Since we all know each other, it's not difficult to say "Can I ask xx along?" Perhaps she wants him all to herself since she initiated the date.
Me: for game plan n enchanted also she jio ar?
X: wah game plan, oh yar hor.. i watched it with her..haha
X: yeah..
One movie perhaps by chance he's free but so many other movies? Isn't this an obvious sign she's interested in him?
X: haiyah, sometimes we watch show by chance wan,,never really plan..
Me: bee movie too?
X: meet up for dinner then end up watching movie..hahah
X: how come u know we watched all these shows?
Not only movies but also date him for dinners too? It's not about whether plan for movies or dinners, its who making the first move.
Me: at least she iniciates the dinners n movies ;)
X: hmm, well, like the most recent wan, she did say she was free.. so i asked whether she wanted to join them for karaoke..
X: she didn't want to and suggested movie instead..
X: so.. ain't exactly considered as she initiates movies.. =p
Me: she tells u she's free means she wants to ask u out lah.. /faint ...or rather she wants to date u lah hee~
So she so keen to tell him she's free and attend his dates and gave alternative when the program he is attending does not suit her.
X: u can ask her out also mah..
Me: she's always bz...thats the response I get :) see the diff ;P
X: issit?
Me: stop asking after awhile..
X: well, try to catch her at days when u know shes definitely free lar..
Me: more than a year is enough liao..
X: wow..
Me: I got no idea when's her free days....to me she's always busy.. or perhaps busy to me ;P
X: hmm, but she's the sort that would make time wan lei..
X: or tats wat i feel..
Me: to u only my friend hee~
X: haha, hmm, u haven't tried asking her out recently have u?
Me: not interested.
See, she makes time for him. He just don't get the fact that I always got the "Sorry busy" rather than the "Yes, I'm free" that he got, isn't he?
Was I jealous? Maybe.
Was I upset? Maybe.
Was I disappointed? Likely.
Was I pissed? YES.
Why was I pissed? Simple, if you really feel pai seh about getting treats from me, won't you try to return the favour? Besides, I am not looking for free movies or dinner, it's the thought that counts. I am most willing to pay for everything WITHOUT any forms of returns. I know for the longest time possible that I am not in her priority list but I never know the fact that I wasn't even on her ANY list. From the above incident, it clearly shows that she rather sits at home and bored to death or date other guys than checking if I am available. Ignorance is sometimes a bliss compare to the harsh reality. At least I know now.
A mutual friend who knows about my liking for her suggests that perhaps she's putting me down the order list for fear that she might mislead me into thinking that she likes me. OH PLEASE! Do I look like someone who will start stalking and bugging people over a dinner or movie? As I mentioned, for the longest time, I already know she's not interested in me. What pissed me off was her pretentious attitude towards me. Don't come telling me you feel bad making me treat when you actually don't feel so. I hate hypocrites, I prefer you come clean with me, I can take punches but not stabs from behind.
"Never make someone a priority if they don't even consider you an option." I have learn the true meaning of this phrase the painful way. For putting her on my priority list, I have indirectly hurt others whom deserve more attention from me than her.
P.S. If you want to shit, please shit far away. Don't shit in my garden, I will sure to smell it.
posted by Hairy Crab @ 8:54 PM
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