Divorce
sigh.. marriages are weak these days.
Yesterday yet another female friend called me and asked for a listening ear.
She's a really sweet and nice girl whom I might have gone after if I got to know her earlier.
She is thinking of ending her one year marriage. Reason, her husband hit her a few times when he got angry and quarrel with her. He is 3 years her junior and works as a Cisco guard. He even ask her for money at times. She said besides hitting her, he parties till the next morning when she allows him to go on his own. He didn't even bothered sms or call her. He complain that she controls him too much when she asked where did he go. Funny thing is, up to this stage she still don't want to bother her family or letting them know that he actually hit her. She has been keeping mum about it for a year. Told her she cannot face it alone, need help.
She regret getting into this marriage too hastily. Why people get married because IT's TIME. Since when marriage has a time frame?
I really don't know how to comfort her. I only gave her another perspective of a man's view. She has to make her own decisions and face what comes after that. I wish her well.
WEAK!
I am really weaker these days. Financially... Pysically... Mentally.
Fall victim to flu easily and takes longer time to recover. I remember I used to be strong enough not to take any medication but a night of axe oil sniffing and plenty of water will beat the flu bug. Recently, this trick don't seems to work anymore.
I wonder am I getting older and the immune system age with me :( or was it the freaky weather and the new working environment of frequent visit to the freezing server room.
Overspending seems to be a common habit these days. I don't know what I spent on? I only know I paid for my August Bali air ticket and I ended up with an outstanding credit card bill. Luckily there's someone willing to help me out. Thank you so much.
So mentally weak... not able to focus... not being my 'happy go lucky' old self and yet I don't know what's wrong. Mid life crisis? so soon? :o or was it the exam pressure that building up within me?
Whatever the case, I hope I can be stronger in the 3 areas mentioned.
Strange thought
I have this strange thought.
If one day I gone 'missing'. No reply to sms, emails or phone calls, which friend of mine will be the first to realise?
To what extend will they go to find me?
Tag paint (pain) ball
Played my very first paint ball game today. I didn't know it can be so physically demanding, thinking the toughest part should be bearing the pain inflicted by the paint balls hitting your body. I was lucky to be hit only 5 times, 3 of which were not painful unlike the other 2 that landed on my inner thigh. OUCH~ In order not to scare those reading this, I shall not post the picture of the bruises.
Mel organised this game. It was fun but kind of expensive ($75 per person). Hopefully, someone organise it again so that I get to go fire some 'pain' on someone else heehee...
Disappointed, Disappointing, Disappointments
I must say that my mood hasn't been good these days though I might not be showing it. Has been awhile and finally decides to blog about it. Reason for such having such foul mood has to do with certain issues with so call friends recently.
I know very well that friends are friends. Not possible for them to commit their time to you solely. I won't even demand my girlfriend (if I have) to commit her time to me. However, I don't like to be at the bottom of the list of friends of my friend's list, meaning I will only be contacted when the rest of the people on his/her list are gone.
Don't come telling me how good I am, how much you miss me when you don't even bother to say 'hi'. Don't come and 'hi' me
ONLY when you are bored, no one to talk to or needs my help. I seriously don't need that. I got better persons to entertain.
Even friendship needs some effort to maintain. I don't demand much and can be maintain easily. A simple 'hey, how's life?' would be a clear indication to me that you still care. Actions speaks louder than words. I don't need pretentious sorry or stories. If you are true to your words, I will see the results. Bottom line, I don't like to be humoured.
I can be a really nice friend or a nasty one. YOU decide.
